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Romancing
Your Gay Lover
In the beginning of a relationship most people
are very receptive to romance. There is something about being in a new
relationship that makes people want to send flowers, give cards, and see
the look of shock on their lover's face when they know something was done
just for them. However, at some point the need to romance your lover, or
the romance you receive from him, will fade. In some ways this could be
considered a good thing. For some people the loss of the overly romantic
phase means that they have become comfortable in their relationship. However,
this doesn't mean you want things to become stale either. The following tips
can be used to revive your romantic nature, or to help your surprise your
lover when he least expects it.
Adding some scents to your sex life
Aromatherapy is a science for some people though
there are many reasons a romantic novice might want to consider playing with
oils to enhance their love life. There are many scented oils, all of which
can be considered to be aphrodisiacs. They will bring out different reactions
in your lover, so - depending on the kind of night you are going for - you
might want to consider some, or all, of the following.
Cinnamon is one of the more popular scents that
will bring your lover to attention. From the use of cinnamon sticks, to the
scent alone, you tend to bring on a warming effect that brings out some romantic
moods - permitting the rest of the ambiance is set. Meanwhile, if your lover
is having a stressful week you could pull out the lavender. This is going
to work especially well on men because it seems to increase blood flow to
the penis and will call him immediately. Try it out by offering a nice bubble
bath, or filling a room with the soothing scent of lavender, and offering
your lover a massage - it will work like a charm!
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Peppermint
works as a stimulant, which makes it an excellent scent. This can, of course,
go either way as some men are prone to go wild over it and others are more
likely to not really prefer the scent at all. However, if it works it
works well - which is why it is being mentioned. You can use everything
from oil, peppermint sticks, tea, or some other combination to entice your
lover. It will also ease his pain if he's having a day where he isn't feeling
well - just massage him with some peppermint oil and his body will loosen
up.
Vanilla is one of the more popular scents used
to bring out romantic desires. You can use it in everything, from desserts
to candles, or you can use potpourri or sprinkle the scent on flowers. Not
only is vanilla calming, but the scent seems to help bring out the romance
in people all around.
Pumpkin Pie and things like sugar cookies are
things that are commonly known to work because they often bring back memories
of fonder times. If your lover has fond memories of baking cookies and holidays
these types of scents will allow you to pursuit romantic moments with your
lover, as the scents will calm him and bring on happy feelings when he smells
them.
Tell him you love him in little ways
Ultimately, no one is going to know your partner
better than you. Your goal to romance should be to play off the things he
likes. If you know he likes flowers then you could surprise him and buy some.
If you know he likes home-cooked meals you could surprise him after a long
day at work by having a homemade dinner waiting for him.
Whether you're making him dinner, or taking
him out, if this is something you do not normally do he is going to notice
it. Those are going to be the things that matter because it is often the
little things that are taken for granted. If your lover is normally the one
handling the housecleaning you could beat him to it and give him the day
off. You'll be surprised how much such a little thing will win you big points.
Of course, there are many other things you can
do to offer a little romance. Send your lover a sexy letter to work with
him. You can place it in his briefcase or his coat pocket. It can be as racy
as your style allows, or it can be something just to say you love him. Sometime
during the day he will find it and get the chance to know that you are thinking
of him wherever you are. You, of course, will have the satisfaction of knowing
that he will be spending the day thinking of you, as well.
If you're going to write a true love letter
to talk more about your feelings, rather than your attraction to your lover,
you might want to consider what you are going to say before you say it. Jot
down the things you want to mention so that you have an idea of what you
will say before you say it. You should write it on paper, or stationary,
as it will seem much more personal than if you were going to type it out
on the computer.
Creating the Mood
If you are planning a seductive evening in your
home there will be nothing nicer than this surprise. If you are attempting
to be romantic you should put your own feelings aside when you are making
this evening happen and concentrate fully on your lover. What is going to
matter most is what he wants and needs.
Start the evening with all the essentials. If
you're going for romantic you will want flowers; the right music; a present,
or two; candles; and all of the other things that your partner loves. If
he is into classic romance then soft music, candles, and flowers will work
well with a dinner next to the fireplace, accompanied by a fine wine.
If he's a movie lover you could easily add some
of his favorites to the night's agenda, or you could opt for a night of intimacy
and exploration of one another by taking time to do some of the things you
normally overlook.
Romancing your lover is going to be simple as
long as you have the confidence to show him you love him, and you take the
time to learn all the things that make him happy. Following these methods
you will not have any problems at all!
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